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Easy Ways to Keep Up with Long Distance Friends

February 20, 2017

One of my favorite parts about college was the fact that I lived within walking distance of most of my friends. In fact, it usually took me about a five minute walk max to make it from my apartment to another apartment or house.

So it was hard for me when I graduated and moved up north, which meant that to see the majority of my friends even for just a weekend I would have to either catch a train or hop on a plane. Despite the distance, I try my best to keep in touch and keep up with each other’s lives whether that means sending a text or actually picking up the phone and giving them a call.

Here are a few ideas that will help you keep in touch with long-distance friends, no matter if they live 20 miles or 2,000 miles away!

Write letters

I’ve always been a HUGE fan of receiving snail mail since it’s really not hat common anymore, minus all of the junk mail I constantly seem to get about opening a new credit card. So when a friend’s birthday comes along or I just a card that reminds me of them, I like to let them know that they’re on my mind by sending a handwritten note.

Plan girls’ weekends

Girls’ weekends are another big favorite of mine. Whether that means staying the weekend in your friend’s apartment and catching up over wine or planning a trip to a city that none of you have been to before, you really can’t beat seeing each other in person and making up for lost time. A few friends and I were discussing a possible girls’ trip this summer to Nashville, which would be so much fun!

Tag each other in Facebook and Instagram posts

I consider this to be the digital equivalent of writing letters, although it’s obviously quicker and easier to do since you don’t have to deal with the line at the post office. I spend an embarrassing amount of time on social media and so when I find a hilarious post or a meme that reminds me of a friend, I like to tag them for a quick laugh. TBH I usually get tagged primarily in posts about being a crazy girlfriend, but whatever (haha!).

Pick up the phone and either give a call or FaceTime

I will admit that I’m one of those people who is not a huge fan of talking on the phone. I’m 100% more likely to make a reservation at a restaurant if I can use OpenTable or Resy just because it’s so convenient. But sometimes you just have certain stories that have to be told over the phone because they are either super amazing or just plain weird and you need to tell someone RIGHT NOW. So yeah, I don’t hate talking on the phone in those cases.

What are your favorite ways to keep up with long-distance friends?

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  • Living on Cloud Nine

    I love you keep in touch with your friends that live far away. I miss that about college too. I have been out of college a really long time and it sad to say I haven’t kept in touch with most of them. Keep making the effort girl, it’s so worth it!

    • Keeping up with each other is definitely tough sometimes but it’s been really rewarding so far!

  • It’s so important to keep up with your friends! I love your suggestions. I’m all for girl’s trips!

    • I agree that it is so important!!

  • Katie Schubert

    I definitely miss that about college – it was amazing being so close! It just takes a little extra effort now to make friendships last. These are some great tips!

    Katie | Willow and White

    • And the extra effort is totally worth it, in my opinion!

  • Hahah so true on the tagging thing! I love to tag and send pictures to friends if I’ve seen a meme/funny quote/picture or anything that reminds me of them. Even though it’s a subtle gesture it’s still important to have the small things too!

    Have a lovely week gorgeous! Xx

    • Tagging friends is funny memes and pictures is such a simple way to let people know that they’re on your mind!

  • These are great ideas! All of my college friends are long distance since I moved for my husband’s job. FaceTime and girls’ weekends are the best!

    Treats and Trends

    • Girls’ weekends are my favorite!! I love planning out restaurants and bars to try while we’re all traveling!

  • Violette

    That’s great thing to do to keep in touch with long distance France! I’m totally in for girl’s weekend!

    • I absolutely love girls’ weekends!

  • Erica Ashley

    These are such great tips!! I love the idea of a girls weekend! I think it would be so much fun!

    • Girls’ weekends really are the best!

  • These are great tips, Courtney! My best friend lives on the East Coast and we are always looking for new ways to stay in touch!

    • Being far away from friends is tough but keeping up in the digital age definitely makes it a little easier!

  • Great tips on how to maintain friendships, it’s really difficult in today’s busy world to keep in contact with a long distance friend. One tip I use is to plan a time to meet again while we are still in each other’s company. That tip has always sorted my friend and I…



    • That’s such a great idea!! My friends and I should really be better about planning ahead!

  • LOVE this! After moving to FL from CT, I lost touch with a lot of friends but am still close to a few of my favs and this is all so important. I love handwritten letters and who doesn’t love a good girls trip? <3

    Green Fashionista

    • Handwritten letters are my favorite!! I love sending them for birthdays!

  • That’s awesome that you make an effort to prioritize and keep in touch with your friends, even though they live so far away. My favorite way for keeping in touch is talking on the phone. I really hate sending texts because I usually have way too much to say and to sit there and type that and have to go back and spell check with the stupid auto correct (lol) I just rather talk about it. I must admit, though I love the idea, I haven’t really sent handwritten letters in a really long time, but lately I’ve really been thinking about it with all the cute stationary around these days, it makes you want to find the excuse to write something, haha! Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a great week ahead!



    • I have the same exact problem when I send text messages!! I always have so much to say and so I’m always a little worried that I’m going to overwhelm my friends haha. I just got new stationary from my parents for Christmas and I absolutely love using it!

  • Girls’ weekends are a great way to catch up and I do send Christmas cards but most of the time it’s email or Whatsapp, I must admit!

    • Emails and text messages are definitely easier than handwritten letters! I love girls’ weekends too!

  • Moving across the world and a 10 hour time difference has taken it’s toll on my friendships I have to admit. It’s hard to stay in touch like we used to but when we catch up it’s like nothing changed!


    Tamara –

    • That does sound tough!! That’s amazing though that you’ve been able to keep in touch even with the huge time difference!

  • Staying in touch is definitely hard, but I will say that when I do get to catch up with friends, it’s like no time has passed 🙂

    • That’s exactly how I feel and why I love catching up with my friends in person!

  • Mary


    Like you, I’m a huge believer in keeping up my friendships with fun and new things! Thanks for your tips. They are great suggestions and it looks like you had fun in DC!

    Love, Mary

  • Leah Cohen

    This is such a great post… all of my friends live ALL over the world now. There’s no more excuses with technology anymore though!
    xx Leah

    • Thats exactly how I feel!! Having a cell phone makes it so easy to stay in touch nowadays!

  • Having moved around and dated my hubby long distance, I definitely know what it is like to try to keep up. These are all such good tips. Social media and things like FaceTime make it so much easier.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

    • Thank you! I love FaceTiming with friends when I know I won’t be able to see them for a while!

  • Rach

    I definitely have a hard time keeping up even if they live in the same city! Social media and FaceTime is definitely a good idea!

    • I’m surprisingly bad at seeing friends regularly who live in my city too, which is a little embarrassing!

  • Shauna C

    I’m so bad about calling my girlfriends. I’m a texter through and through! Trying to get better about it in the new year!


    • I’ve never been much a caller (I’m more of a texted too!), so I usually save calls for longer and/or ore important stories!

  • My friends are all over the place right now, all I can say is thank god for memes because that is pretty much how we stay in touch. We always find things that relate to each other, I wish we made time for phone calls but I prefer seeing people in person. A little effort definitely goes a long way, great post! I always feel like the older you get the more things change, people move etc. This is so helpful, thank you for sharing Courtney xxx

    ALittleKiran | Bloglovin

    • Aren’t memes the funniest way of keeping up with friends! I always get a good laugh out of them!

  • These are effective tips~ I’ve been doing these along with my girlfriends and we really have the time of our lives!


  • I always keep up with my LD friends through fb and ig! It’s the quickest way!


    I need to take your advice I have rather a few long distant friends. It’s hard to stay in touch but it is important

    Filipa xxx | Instagram

    • I agree! It can be tough sometimes but I love keeping up with my friends!

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  • I relate to this so much! It’s like you go from living with your friends or near your friends in college to being scattered after gradation. My long distance friends and I have a group message we keep going, and we also really like the app “Houseparty”. It lets you all video chat together!

    Kathryn •

    • Ooh I’ll have to check out that app! It sounds amazing!

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